When I finally gained the courage to stop waiting for the “perfect time” to start living my goals and changing lives for the better… Something ALWAYS came up.
My name is Nicole, and I am a badass single Mom of four. As of right now, 2 out of the 4 have been diagnosed with special needs, and as of this week, the battle with getting them both a 504 Plan this year, has been won (more about that in the future, I’m sure.)
This isn’t the way I saw my life turning out. In fact, growing up, all I ever wanted to be was a badass wife, incredible mother, and business owner. I never saw a double whammy of domestic violence, failed marriage after ten years, broken engagement to my high school sweetheart, and becoming a single mother of four, headed my way.
I did see however, all of these vicious hurdles being chucked at my face coming my way during the season that I was struggling through Surviving..
It was almost as if life was saying,
“It’s time to level up.. Let’s see you dodge this one, bitch!”
There were nights that after putting the Tribe to bed I would tip toe into the bathroom and silently cry. Cry & pray was literally all I could do.
There were many days that I felt like I couldn’t get out of bed to face another day at the office helping others reach their career goals yet alone put on my “happy face” and pretend like life was incredible.
I had a Tribe to represent, to feed, and to lead by example proving to them that we would make it better than before.
So without fail, I was blessed to continue hustling with a happy heart (trust me it sounds easier than it was.)
Before we knew it, not only did we:
- Live in a hotel and manage not to go crazy (I still remember replacing the photos on the wall & the bed linen to make it look and feel more like a studio apartment… a home.. rather than a hotel room.)
- Managed to make ends meet despite ridiculous hotel room costs (I had to get creative online in order to make sure I kept the Special Promo Discount literally every week or we were doomed!) but the vehicle I was still financing was constantly breaking down.. (That year I replaced the engine once, the transmission twice, and the radiator once)
- Made it into our beautiful home in a great neighborhood
- Bought a brand new trendy SUV
- Switched jobs
The list goes on and on..
Far above everything listed, we grew. We grew as individuals, as a Tribe, and as one.
My goal is simple.
I decided to make today the day that the timing is “perfect” & go all in without looking back.
I am blogging, recording Podcasts, and volunteering..
Not for me, but for
The goal is to reach you on every level possible:
You might not be ready to leave, but you need the education, resources, motivation, or just a reminder that you aren’t alone.
- Victim of domestic violence
Fellow Badass Survivor of DV
You might need motivation, encouragement, support, reminder to never look back and to continue moving forward, or even additional resources for Survivors.
Budget, people! It’s the thing we doing talk about out loud in public, but we have to follow it. Providing for the little people, bills, ages and stages of the kids and what we go through, co-parenting with the abuser, rights the abuser has, counseling for you or the kids, implementing traditions, battles with the kids since the DV occurred, battles with the school, special needs, and the famous dating life (just wait until we discuss the Fuck Boys Gone Wild segment 😆)
Overall health being a badass Boss Babe (men are Boss babes too, own it!)
Self love, self worth, self discipline, goals, fitness, fitness tips (I lost 82lbs and once upon a time, I was a personal trainer) meal plans, making time for self and for friends, and whatever else the Survivor needs, let’s discuss!
My goal is simple.
I came to conquer
I want to be that Podcast you choose to listen to because my voice and what I say add value to your life.
I want my words on this blog to be the words you read that help you on many different levels.. Even if you are reading this on the toilet (don’t forget to wipe.)
I want to be the Survivor helping you become wiser, stronger, and more courageous than ever, to defeat another day and demolish whatever goal you create.
It’s a dark world out there.. While we barely survived DV, the least you need is the world to eat you alive when you can finally breathe & live life in peace.
I’m here to help you conquer.